The relationship between couples' romantic perfectionism and women's quality of married life: the moderating role of self-compassion

Authors
masoome barzegari
simin hooseinian
Abbas Abdollahi
Alzahra University
Abstract
The purpose of the present study was to determine the moderating role of self-compassion in relation between couple’s romantic perfectionism (self-centered and other-centered) with quality of marital life in the women. This study was of a descriptive-correlation type and the statistical population included married women of Tabriz city. 321 samples were selected using a convenience sampling method and the link of the questionnaires was provided to them. The tools of this research included: Rees et al.'s self-compassion scale (2011), Abdollahi and Allen's (2022) romantic perfectionism scale (self-centered and other-centered), and Busby et al.'s (1995) marital quality measurement scale. . After entering the data into the computer, the data were analyzed using SPSS26 and PLS3 software using the structural equation modeling method. The results showed that self-compassion has a significant relationship with the quality of married life (P<0.001,β=0.384),on the other hand self-centered romantic perfectionism has a significant relationship with the quality of married life (P<0.001,β=0.361),also other-centered romantic perfectionism has a significant relationship with the quality of married life (P<0.001,β=-0.713). Self-compassion played a moderating role between self-oriented perfectionism and marital life quality, but it did not play a moderating role in relation to other-oriented perfectionism and marital life. According to these findings, the importance of getting to know the dimensions of romantic perfectionism and teaching the skills of self-compassion in pre-marriage and post-marriage counseling, both in preventing the decrease in the quality of marital life and in increasing the quality of marital life, doubles.
Keywords
Couple’s romantic perfectionism
Quality of Marital Life
Self-Compassion
Women
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